I’m a nosy bitch. I need to get to know you. We’re going to be spending a lot of time together, and you are paying me to boss you around in a way that will be LIFE TRANSFORMING. I’m going to ask you a lot of questions when we first meet that might have you feeling a little guarded – Medications? Injuries? Does your job have you sitting for long periods? What do you eat for breakfast? Are you afraid of heights? Is your husband/wife a jerk?
Okay, that last one maybe not in the consultation, but you know what? If we’re five sessions into it and your emotional state is interfering with your self care, there’s a good chance I will ask you that question, albeit with a little more tact. By then, though, I will already know enough about you to have both of us feeling comfortable enough for me to ask that question. If not that one, it might be an inquiry into how your mother is doing after her surgery, or if your boss is still pressuring you about that project that you don’t have enough funding for, or if your dog needed to be put down. I will ask you these questions and encourage you to talk about them because a) I am genuinely interested and b) that exchange will help me help you take care of yourself and get to your goals.
Conversely, if you are smiling more than usual and have more energy, I’m going to say something along the lines of, “Your partner must have really come through for your birthday!” or “OMG, did you get that raise?!” or simply “Okay, what gives? You are on fire today!” I will tap into that energy and push you a little harder, because when you are happy, you will do more.
I will ask you questions about where you live (is it jogging/biking distance from the gym?), whether or not there are stairs in your house (can you go up and down them more often than you already do?), how you carry your baby (you know that strain you feel in your left hip? Mhmm.), what restaurants you like to eat at (I like to eat out and want recommendations… oh, also, how are you eating when you’re not doing the cooking), what kind of music you listen to (I like music and want recommendations… oh, also, here are five songs similar to what you like that are great for running to), if you stayed up late the night before (sleep is Very Important to fitness goals), how your trip home for Xmas was (code for – how much of Mom’s peach cobbler did you consume?).
I am both an empath (we make great personal trainers because we often know what your problem is before you even know have a problem) and a people person. I am going to be your coach, your ally, and your biggest cheerleader. Bonus: I will support you in your goals throughout your life, not just in fitness. I’ll be at the grand opening of your business. I’ll bring you soup if you’re sick. I will text you a novel’s worth of encouragement and pep talk when you text me and tell me you are feeling out of shape and terrible about yourself. How comfortable you are in our relationship, how vulnerable you are willing to be with me, will have an enormous impact on your success with your goals. We, dear client, are going to be friends.